_{*Quick Summary: The author reveals how he prays, and lays out a suggestion for others.*}

I have had times in my life when I’ve struggled to pray. Times when 1 Thessalonians 5:17 KJV – “Pray without ceasing.” seems a million miles away. In those times, I have one hope as a Christian. I know the Holy Spirit dwells in me, and in times when I’m so troubled I can’t formulate a real prayer, the Spirit will intercede for me. – “Likewise the Spirit also helpeth our infirmities: for we know not what we should pray for as we ought: but the Spirit itself maketh intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered.” – Romans 8:26 KJV. Still, as comforting as it is to know God knows what we need before we ask Him, it’s best if we maintain an open exchange of regular prayer with Him.

“Hear my prayer, O God; give ear to the words of my mouth.” – Psalms 54:2 KJV

I’ve prayed for so many selfish things through the years. Cringe-worthy prayers. I imagine God must just shake His head at some of the things I’ve said to Him and asked in the name of Jesus Christ no less. Having had some of those misguided or open-ended prayers answered in ways I didn’t expect, has led me to understand my prayers ARE answered. Maybe not always the way I expected, but answered nonetheless. Sometimes it may take years until I realize something I prayed for was answered. I’ll look back and piece together that God was faithful to my request, even when I thought He didn’t hear me. And then the times when I’ve prayed very specifically for what I wanted, and got exactly that, only to realize later what I wanted wasn’t what I needed, but God still answered my prayer.

For that reason, I now pray specifically for what I want, tell God that He knows better than I do and ultimately to let His will be done, even if it’s different than what I prayed for. Then I thank God for what He has provided, and for the ability to come to the throne in prayer. To me, this helps keep my relationship with God balanced. I have prayed for what I wanted, but I’ve also let God know I respect Him and His decision above my own understanding. It shows trust. Respect. Honor. And with the knowledge He wants what’s best for me, I’m more likely to get a better outcome than for God to answer a misguided prayer word-for-word, only to have me realize later that I wish He wouldn’t have.